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Lord Chesterfield Quotes

(1694-1773), British Statesman, Author

Take the tone of the company you are in.

Category: Conformity

Never hold anyone by the button or the hand in order to be heard out; for if people are unwilling to hear you, you had better hold your tongue than them.

Category: Conversation

Custom has made dancing sometimes necessary for a young man; therefore mind it while you learn it, that you may learn to do it well, and not be ridiculous, though in a ridiculous act.

Category: Dance And Dancing

Be wiser than other people, if you can; but do not tell them so.

Category: Discretion

The only solid and lasting peace between a man and his wife is, doubtless, a separation.

Category: Divorce

Any affectation whatsoever in dress implies, in my mind, a flaw in the understanding.

Category: Dress

The difference between a man of sense and a fop is that the fop values himself upon his dress; and the man of sense laughs at it, at the same time he knows he must not neglect it.

Category: Dress

Our own self-love draws a thick veil between us and our faults.

Category: Egotism

Let your enemies be disarmed by the gentleness of your manner, but at the same time let them feel, the steadiness of your resentment.

Category: Enemies

There is a sort of veteran woman of condition, who, having lived always in the grand monde, and having possibly had some gallantries, together with the experience of five and twenty or thirty years, form a young fellow better than all the rules that can be given him. Wherever you go, make some of those women your friends; which a very little matter will do. Ask their advice, tell them your doubts or difficulties as to your behavior; but take great care not to drop one word of their experience; for experience implies age, and the suspicion of age, no woman, let her be ever so old, ever forgives.

Category: Experience

Honest error is to be pitied, not ridiculed.

Category: Failure

When a person is in fashion, all they do is right.

Category: Fashion

As fathers commonly go, it is seldom a misfortune to be fatherless; and considering the general run of sons, as seldom a misfortune to be childless.

Category: Fathers

Firmness of purpose is one of the most necessary sinews of character, and one of the best instruments of success. Without it genius wastes its efforts in a maze of inconsistencies.

Category: Firmness

Women who are either indisputably beautiful, or indisputably ugly, are best flattered upon the score of their understandings; but those who are in a state of mediocrity are best flattered upon their beauty, or at least their graces: for every woman who is not absolutely ugly, thinks herself handsome.

Category: Flattery